![]() He’d grow cold and distant for a day without warning.įrom this bit of information, you may falsely conclude that from now on, you’re going to avoid all divorced men for good. He wouldn’t invite you to meet his parents. He would only call and set up plans once a week. The last guy you dated was divorced and had commitment issues. If you’ve somehow gotten unlucky and came across a few non-committal, emotionally unavailable men (even confident, emotionally secure women do), you may quickly concluded that from now on, you should avoid ALL men in a certain category. Your brain has evolved to be quick at making snap judgment about people based on past experiences. Bad Experiences Trains You to Expect More Bad Experiences. Get good at filtering the time-wasters and focus purely on men who are worth your time and investment. Keeping this in mind, the next time you meet a less than stellar guy, be quick to say “this douche is just wasting my time… NEXT.” So if your mindset is “there are no good men out there,” that’s the 1% of men you’re focused on.īut imagine your mindset was “good men are everywhere.” Guess what, you will almost immediately start to notice good men everywhere. The mind is really powerful and it has the ability to filter out 99% of information you receive and focus on the 1% you actually care about. You go to car dealership, you test drive it, you watch Youtube videos about it, you ask your friends’, colleagues’, family’s opinion about this car, and because your mind is focused on a particular car, you also find yourself noticing Mazda 3s everywhere you go. Have you ever being shopping for a new car? You do the research for the car you want, say it’s a Mazda 3. I understand when you’re in a certain mind set, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking “there are no decent men out there”, “all the good ones are taken”, “I arrived at the party too late. There Are Plenty of Men Out There Who Won’t Waste Your Time. Notice what results you’re getting, if you’re investing and investing in this guy and getting little back, it’s time to cut this one loose and move on. ![]() If you’re spending 90% of your dating energy on a guy who is not putting in an equal amount of energy back, you’re wasting your time. You know the saying if you want something bad enough, you should work hard to get it? Well, the second half of that saying is, if you want something bad enough, you should work hard to get it, but you should also check the feedback that you’re getting. ![]() Dating Drains You of Mental and Emotional Energy. ![]()
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